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The Devil pulled about an ex, and the yes it keeps giving

Fourteen months, and he's still setting the temperature of your week from a distance without doing very much at all. You pulled a card tonight for the question you always ask, and the Devil came out. The first three pages you opened said toxic. The next two said soulmate. Both were written by people who have never sat where you're sitting. What you want to know is whether he comes back, and everything else is decoration.

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The month it ended, how it restarts, and who reaches first. That's enough for somebody to read the shape of this with you, including the parts that say the loop is nowhere near finished. Readers are on through the night and there are 200 free credits to start, with no card taken.

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turlough, 11 february 1987. we ended it in may and we still end up back in it every few months. i pulled the devil asking if hes coming back again. what does that even mean
Shira here. It means yes, most likely, and I want to give you the rest of it in the same breath, because the yes on its own is what's cost you the year. Look at what the chains in that card are actually fastened to. Not to each other. Both of them run from a collar down to the block the creature is sitting on, and the two people stand either side of it. So it isn't drawing a tie between you and him. It's drawing a thing you're both still attached to, and every few months you both go back and stand at it. That's why he keeps turning up, and it's also why nothing is any different when he does. What I wouldn't swear to is the reason on his side. I have a view and I'll give it to you, but it'll be a read rather than a fact.
so hes the one dragging me back into it every time
Not the way you mean it, and I'm not handing you the opposite version either, where it's all you, because that's just cruelty with a card attached to it. The block isn't him. It's the arrangement the two of you have built since May, and it runs on rules neither of you has ever said out loud. There are two collars in that picture. His isn't reachable by you, and that's a practical point rather than a moral one. You've spent fourteen months with your hand out towards an end of this that was never in your reach, and I think that's the bit you're actually grieving.
so if he does come back its just going to be the same thing again
On what this card is showing me, yes, and I'd rather say it tonight than let you find it out in the spring. It answers the coming back question far too easily. What it's telling you is that the loop is intact, which isn't the same as him having changed his mind, and those two get mistaken for each other constantly. If there's timing in it at all it's a stretch of weeks rather than a date, and I won't invent one for you. Tell me one thing before I read any further, and you'll know it without going to look anything up. The last three times the two of you ended up back in it, who reached first each time?

The Devil pulled about an ex usually does say he comes back. It's one of the few cards that will answer that question at all, and it answers readily, which is what's wrong with it.

What it won't do is call that good news. It describes an arrangement that's still intact rather than a man who has changed his mind, and intact arrangements resume. That's what they're for.

look at what the chains are tied to

Everybody reads the chains and almost nobody reads where they go.

They don't run between the two people. Each goes from a collar down to the block the creature is sitting on, and the figures stand either side of it, fastened to the same object and not to one another. That's the architecture of the card, and why it lands on this question so often.

what's still fastened, and it isn't him

Fourteen months after an ending, the thing still running is rarely the person. He has a Tuesday you know nothing about.

What's running is the arrangement. The rhythm of the ending and the restarting, the rules neither of you wrote down and both of you follow, and the version of him you've kept current, by now a more detailed man than the one who left.

That's what the card has drawn as a block, the only object in the picture with any weight in it.

the end you can reach

Here's where a page like this usually turns round and tells you that you're choosing this. Which is true, and a rotten thing to say to somebody who has spent fourteen months trying to stop.

The useful version of the same fact is duller. There are two collars in that picture. One is on a person who isn't in the room with you, and no amount of reaching gets you to it. That isn't a failure of effort. It was never in the frame.

The other is at your own neck, the only thing in the card within reach of a human hand. Which isn't the same as being told to get over it. It's the difference between a problem that can't be solved and one that's merely hard.

It's also why the question people arrive with comes back empty. What he's doing tonight, who he's with, whether there's somebody. Nobody can see that, and a reader who describes his evening has stopped reading and started writing, and you'd spend the next month checking a piece of fiction against a real man. How he feels is readable. Where he's standing is not, and here the gap does more damage than anywhere else.

before this gets applied where it doesn't belong

One thing plainly. If he won't accept it's over, if he turns up, if any part of this frightens you rather than hurts you, then nothing above applies and a reading isn't what tonight needs. Nobody in that position should be handed a card about their own end of a chain. That belongs with somebody trained for it, not with a picture of a block.

when it comes up reversed

Reversed, the hold is usually coming off, and everyone expects that to feel like something. It doesn't. No scene, no last conversation where it gets settled.

You reach a Tuesday afternoon and notice you haven't thought about it since the morning, and the first thing you feel isn't relief. It's flatness, because obsession is at least company.

The other reading shows up more than people admit. Sometimes the release is his. He's the one who stopped needing the arrangement, which is why the messages tailed off without anything being announced. Same card, and the person holding it isn't the one let go.

who reached first

Shira takes this card off the man and puts it on the pattern, usually inside two messages.

Her question is who reached first. Not what was said, which everybody has ready and has reread into meaninglessness. The last three times you ended up back in it, who moved first each time. She wants it from what you already know rather than anything you'd have to find out, and she notices when the order gets softened.

What she's doing is reading the block instead of the man. Three reaches out of three from your side is one card. Two from his and one from yours is a different card, and from the inside they feel the same. The pattern is the only part of this neither of you has edited.

Then she pulls on the arrangement rather than on him, because people bring the deck a man and the man isn't the thing with a shape. And she'll tell you what came up rather than what she'd rather have turned, including when it says the loop is nowhere near done.

What she won't do is hand you the reunion as a comfort. This card gives out yes so cheaply that a yes off it is worth nothing, and she'd rather spend the minutes on what you'd be agreeing to if he stood on the step on Friday.

the cards that change it

With the Moon there are suddenly two of him in the spread. The Moon is a person assembled at night out of very little, and beside a card about an arrangement it says the man being missed hasn't been in the room for a while.

With the Tower something ends from outside. Nobody in a Devil situation talks their way out of it, and the Tower is where an event does the job. The least romantic pairing here and the one to take most seriously.

Turned about somebody you're still with it asks a different question, and that one has a page of its own. If this is the fourth or fifth time round, why he keeps coming back goes at the pattern directly.

the part of this that will sit still and be looked at

He won't. He's been the least readable object in this for fourteen months, and that is most of what has kept you here.

The arrangement will. It has a shape and a rhythm, and unlike him it doesn't change while it's being watched. So bring that: the month it ended, how it restarts, who reaches first, and what you'd be saying yes to if he turned up on Friday. Somebody will read it with you instead of telling you a card means toxic. Readers are on through the night, the first 200 credits cost nothing, and nobody asks for a card.

What people said after theirs

★★★★★

She asked who reached first the last three times and I said me, then me, then him, and only after I'd liked something of his. That wasn't what I came for and it's the only part I've thought about since.

Roberta, verified reading
★★★★★

I didn't warm to her at the start, she's very casual and I'd wanted something more solemn than that. Then she said the card was answering yes and that the yes was the problem, and nobody in fourteen months had put it to me that way round. I went back to her in July.

Iolanthe, verified reading
★★★★★

Half of it went over my head, the card detail especially, and I said so and she just moved on without any fuss about it. What has stayed with me is her saying the chains in that picture don't run from one person to the other. I see it every time he texts.

Nadine, verified reading

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Questions people ask us

Does The Devil mean my ex is coming back?

More often than not it points that way, which is what makes it one of the crueller cards to pull on this question. What it shows is a loop still intact rather than a man who has reconsidered anything. A return that comes off this card tends to arrive on the same terms it left on. That's the part worth preparing for, rather than the return itself.

What does The Devil mean about an ex?

It says something is still fastened, and it's precise about what. The two figures are chained to the block they're standing at rather than to each other, so what the card reports is an arrangement that outlived the relationship. The on and off, the rules nobody wrote down, the version of him you keep current in your head. All of that runs whether or not either of you is in contact this month.

Is The Devil a yes for getting back together?

Forced into a yes or no it answers yes, and that answer is worth less than it looks. The card can't tell a reunion from a recurrence, because from the inside those two are identical. What a reader does with it is stop asking whether and start asking what you'd be agreeing to, which is a question that actually has an answer this week.

What does The Devil reversed mean about an ex?

Usually that the hold is coming off, and it comes off far less dramatically than anyone wants it to. No scene, no closing conversation, and often no particular day you could point to afterwards. It tends to register as flatness a good while before it registers as freedom. The other version is that the release in the card is his rather than yours, and that one is better named than dressed up.

Does The Devil mean he is obsessed with me?

It means something has a hold, and the card isn't fussy about which direction it runs in. A fair amount of the time it's describing the person who laid it out. Where it genuinely is on his side, the tell is that his end keeps producing contact and never produces a decision. Which of the two collars is yours gets settled early in a decent reading, because everything after it depends on the answer.

What does The Devil with the Six of Cups mean for an ex?

Six of Cups is memory, warm and facing backwards, and next to this one it says what's pulling him is the old version rather than the current one. That pairing turns up before a lot of returns, and it explains why so many of them go flat inside a month. He came back to a memory. You'd been living in the present the whole time, which is a much harder place to reach.

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