The Tower for an ex, and the ending it is describing
Eleven months, and you still take him to the cards. Tonight you asked whether he is coming back and got a tower being hit by lightning, and you have already decided that is a no with the volume turned up. Sit with it a second longer, because it may not have answered your question at all. Look at which way this card is facing. You asked about what happens next. What you are holding is a picture of something coming apart.
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A real reading looks like this
The Tower pulled about somebody who has gone is usually not answering the question you asked. You asked about return. It has described the ending. That sounds like a dodge and it is the most useful thing anybody can tell you tonight, because it moves the reading off a future nobody can see and onto something you were present for. This is the card of the ending that came with nothing in front of it, or with signs that were there and unreadable at the time. It is not a return card, and nobody honest will turn it into one for you.
both of the figures are falling
Look at the people rather than the building.
There are two of them and both are in the air. Nobody is at a window watching, nobody has been pushed, and the picture will not say which of them was nearer the door.
Then the windows. The flames come out of them, which puts the fire inside the building before the lightning arrived. That is not the same as saying you should have known. A thing can be inside a house and invisible from the street.
And the picture stops. Both figures are still falling when the card ends. No ground, no aftermath, nobody getting up. Whatever you get told about what comes next did not come from here.
the ending it is describing
Two versions of this ending exist, and most people live in one without knowing there is another.
In the first there was genuinely nothing. No signs, an ordinary Saturday and then a conversation on the Tuesday. People say it came out of nowhere and get told gently that it never does. Under this card, sometimes it does. The strike arrives from outside the frame, which is the deck saying that some endings are caused by something that was never in your half of the house.
In the second the signs were there and unreadable from inside. He stopped saying it back. He went quiet on Sundays. You registered every one and gave each a reason, and the reasons were reasonable. That is the fire in the windows.
Most endings are both. What neither supports is running the last conversation over looking for the hinge in it. There is no hinge in a lightning strike.
on whether he comes back, and what this card cannot see
The straight answer is that it does not speak to return, and any read that gets one out of it has been pushed.
It reports on a structure, and structures have no intentions. People do come back after a Tower ending, and when they do it has nothing to do with this pull, because the card was describing something that had already happened.
Which is also why it is useless for what you most want. Where he is tonight, who he is with, whether he thinks about you at four in the morning. Point a report on a collapse at his Friday and there is nothing in it, because the only people in the image are the two who fell. A reader who answers anyway is composing, and what gets composed is a real person you then treat differently for a year.
reversed, when the fall keeps being postponed
Reversed on an ex is usually not a softer version.
Most often it is an ending being held off: the pattern that has broken up three times and reassembled every time, where the roof comes off and goes back on and nobody finishes the sentence. One collapse, paid for in instalments.
Sometimes it is the opposite and much better news. The fall happened, the ground has been reached, and you are still braced for a strike out of a sky that cleared months ago. That turns up a lot around the year mark, and bracing costs something.
the ordinary week before it happened
Shira does not start this one at the ending, which is where everybody hands it to her.
She asks for the week before it, deliberately the boring one. What was bought, what was booked, what the two of you had planned for a month that never came. Those small forward-facing objects tell you whether the building saw it coming. A holiday paid for in October. A boiler service booked for January. She takes them as evidence of what he thought was happening on the Saturday, which is a different thing from what he had decided by the Tuesday.
Then the harder half, and she is careful with it, because it is the question people use to prosecute themselves. Was there anything you noticed and put back down. She wants one thing rather than a list, in the plain form it arrived in, and she reads it against the flames rather than against you. Inside the building, not visible from the street.
When she pulls a second card here it goes on top of the Tower and it is about you rather than him, which is the part people remember. She would sooner spend the credits on the eleven months than on a man's next move, and she will not hand over a reunion to be kind.
the cards it lands beside
With the Five of Cups the grief is being read from the wrong side. Three cups down, two still standing behind the figure, and nobody in that picture has turned round yet.
With the Eight of Cups the leaving was chosen rather than done to you, which usually means the story you carry about a man who blew everything up needs another look.
Pulled about a relationship still going on, this card asks a different question, on its own page. If return is what you want put to somebody, there is a page for that.
the one thing it genuinely offers
Here is the whole of what this card offers, and it is smaller than what you came for.
There is no building left to keep standing. Nobody is up there working out which floors still take weight, or what can be said at Christmas. That job is over, and it ended without asking you, which is why it does not feel like relief yet.
A fact about ground rather than a promise about him, and true, which a promise would not have been.
So bring the ordinary week and the thing you noticed and put down. Say it to a reader rather than to the deck, which will only repeat itself. Somebody is on now, and the first 200 credits are free, no card.
What people said after theirs
★★★★★I asked whether he was coming back and was told, politely, that the card had answered a different question. I was annoyed enough to close the chat. Went back the week after because she had been right about the ending, and I would rather have somebody who tells me that than somebody who agrees with me.
★★★★★The part that stayed with me was being asked about the week before rather than the day itself. I had spent eight months on one afternoon. There was an entire normal week sitting in front of it that I had never once thought about.
★★★★★She would not give me a reunion and she would not give me a month either, and I will admit I have paid other people who handed over both. What I got instead was the reason it had felt like being hit by something. Less comforting on the night. More use since.
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Questions people ask us
Does the Tower mean my ex is coming back?
It is not a return card and it takes real effort to read it as one. What it describes is a structure coming apart under a shock, which is a statement about something that happened rather than about anybody's next move. Some people who pull it do hear from an ex again, and the card had nothing to do with predicting that. If return is what you want an answer on, this pull is not where it lives.
What does the Tower say about why we broke up?
That it arrived rather than accumulated. The lightning comes in from outside the frame, so the ending was triggered by something instead of being reached by degrees, and the trigger is more often information than an event. This is the card people pull when they keep saying it came out of nowhere. It agrees with them, which is usually the first time anything has.
Why did I pull the Tower months after the breakup?
Usually because you asked about the future and the deck answered about the past, which this card does more readily than any other. It can also mean the collapse is still going on inside you while everyone around you has filed the whole thing as finished. Neither of those is a warning about something new arriving. Check the date on the fall before you brace for another one.
What does the Tower reversed mean for an ex?
Most often an ending being postponed rather than one that has landed. That is the on and off pattern, the third goodbye, the two people who keep taking the roof off and putting it back on. It can also mean the worst of it is behind you and you are still braced against a sky that has cleared. The difference between those two readings is a date, and you are the one who has it.
Is the Tower always a bad card to pull about an ex?
It is a hard card and pretending otherwise helps nobody. What it is not is a punishment, or a verdict on you. Both figures in that picture are in the air and neither of them has been singled out, which is worth sitting with if you have spent months building a case that all of it was your fault. Hard and unfair are different words.
What comes after the Tower?
Nothing in the picture, and that is the honest answer to give you. The image stops while both figures are still falling, so anybody describing the landing has left the card behind and started making it up. What is true is that there is no longer a building to be kept standing. That is a smaller thing than what you came for and it has the advantage of being real.